Letter to my daughter and future fiancé:
Dear
Emmeline Sage and STBSIL, February 15, 2015
I am dumbfounded that you are getting married!!! Right now, you barely even talk about boys
but you do smile oddly when a cute boy walks by or yell at me when I say hi to
the popular boys at school. I know you
like them but are afraid to talk about it.
Just like you blush and try to avoid talking about puberty and the facts
of life. ;)
Emme you have an amazing talent to
love others. You have a gift of a tender
heart. You love your family. I love watching you with your friends and
with your siblings. You can play with
Eva as well as you can play with our 18 year old babysitter! You will accomplish so much! I know you will want to study, what, I don’t
know. Whatever it is, you will do it fantastically. My guess is you will desire to serve a
mission. Now, I think that would be a
fantastic opportunity for you and that you could help many find Jesus Christ,
but if you choose not to go and get married instead, I will know it is because
you felt it in your heart that God wanted not to go.
Emme, you are at a critical point in your life right
now. I know that you will make the best
decision to marry the right man.
However, look at your fiancé:
Does he work hard like your Dad? Is he a worthy priesthood holder like
your Father? Does he love you and puts
you second in his life, first being God?
Does he want kids and is he good to his Mom?
Being a wife and a mother is not easy. However all the hard work is worth it! I have you, just as a small example! ;) Don’t put off having kids! They are the true joy in life! I find it a privilege to be a wife to a man
that loves God more than me and who is a fantastic Father! You are so incredible lucky; you were raised
by a prefect Dad. Yes, no one is perfect
but he was the perfect fit to raise you!
Emme once you learn to embrace motherhood, with all the messes and
sleepless nights you will find a joy that I can’t express. Stay home with your kids; you will never see
them take their first steps again. I am
blessed to do that. I have loved
watching you grow! You have surpassed
all my expectations! You are rare!
Now soon to be son-in-law, welcome to the family. Enter if you dare! We are so thrilled that Emme has chosen you
and you have chosen her! She is a rare
rose among thorns. Now, I expect you to
know this and remember this for the rest of your life, Emme is as precious to
me as water is to a traveler in the Sierra’s.
Now, I have been tempted to threaten you if you hurt my daughter in the
slightest, but I too have been married a long time and know it is not easy, so
I know there will be pain, but let me teach you how to love a woman deeply and
she will respond and love you beyond your understanding; listen to all the
craziness, even if it doesn’t make sense, scratch that, especially when it doesn’t make sense, all she needs is a nod and
say, “I know, that’s just crazy.” Give
Emme wings to fly! She loves to do her
own thing but she will always return home to her sounding board, aka, you. Women need to get out and socialize and not
feel guilty. Let her go, smile and clean
up while she’s gone. She will respond
will affection and respect. Encourage
her to remember her true heritage. She
is a beloved daughter of God. PLEASE, treat
her as such!
Now that all the counsel is over, you’ll notice that I
didn’t hound on Emme as much, there is a reason. I had 18 years to already do that, if she
hasn’t figured out yet, good luck STBSIL!
You’ve got this!
Love,
Mom from the past
PS I love you more!
